Holding It In is Holding You Back

#108

Friend,

I know you’ve been practicing “out of sight, out of mind,” but that is not how the mind works.

We think that if we can not think about it, separate ourselves from it, not have reminders of it that we will forget it.

That may be true about the state capitals you learned in 5th grade or math concepts you learned in high school, but it’s not true for your wounds.

Instead of “Out of sight, out of mind,” I want you to remember this:

Holding it in is holding me back.

The pain that happened to you is real. It’s wrong, and it needs to be grieved, processed and redeemed. Ignoring your pain doesn’t make it go away just like turning up the radio doesn’t make that strange car noise go away. Your pain is still turning inside and grinding the gears of heart, soul, and mind.

You’ve heard it said that time heals all wounds, but that only applies to wounds that have received care. Wounds that don’t receive care get infected. And for your emotional life:

Unprocessed pain only produces bitterness.

If you have wounds and trauma that you have put off healing for a while, then I highly recommend seeing a professional counselor. If you need help finding one, then let me know, and we can find one together.

Love,

Aaron