Friend,
Being angry is natural. Staying angry, being enraged, is powerful.
Rage gives you purpose and power. You were wronged. You were hurt. You were left to pick up the pieces of your pain, and your rage provides a sense of control and purpose.
Rage feels good.
Rage is pain unleashed on the world.
But rage doesn’t accomplish much but destruction. And destruction is often indiscriminate. There can be a lot of collateral damage in rage, as all it wants to do is cause pain in whatever is nearby.
Rage is the Incredible Hulk, more concerned with smashing than anything else. Hulk may be powerful, but he isn’t good. And even the Hulk doesn’t want to stay enraged (or in-greened) for long.
I know what they did was wrong, and you have every right to be angry, but I don’t want to see you enraged any longer. It has to be exhausting. And I don’t want to see you hurt yourself or others anymore.
If rage is pain unleashed on the world, then grief is pain released for a purpose.
Grief acknowledges our anger, our pain, and our bitterness and seeks healing, not destruction. It seeks justice, not suffering. Grief seeks wholeness.
And that’s what I want for you.
Wholeness.
Love,
Aaron
Grief explained is truth.
Thank you, Aaron